2014: A Year of Change Pt. 1

Since it's New Years Eve, I thought I would post my overall thoughts on 2014 as a whole. As you see from the title, this year was a big year of change for me, and I'll explain why.

2013 was probably the most difficult year of my life. At least I thought everything that happened in 2013 was difficult, until I came to 2014. In 2013, really sucky things happened, and just to give some minor details, I will explain what happened.

Everyone gets bullied sometime during their life, whether they're in elementary school or even an adult. Bullying is a part of life that no one can ever avoid. During 2013, I thought it would be wise for me to get an account on Facebook. Little did I know that this would be one of the decisions I regret the most.

First of all, having a Facebook account meant lying to my parents, something that I absolutely hate doing. I made up in my mind that I would tell them about it, but never did until it was too late. I had already fallen into the terrible trap of Cyberbullying.

Now I don't want this post to become a debate on the topic of Cyberbullying, so I just want to get one thing straight: Cyberbullying and being mean to someone on line IS THE EXACT SAME THING!!! They are not different in any way, shape, or form, and for those out there who think Cyberbullying is some big hoax, thing again, bucko, because as a matter of fact you are dead wrong. The threat of bullying is spread like a virus online faster than anywhere else. And that virus got to me.

Not to name names to be respectful on persons involved, and just to keep the story short, things didn't start going to well. Fake Facebook profiles were created to try and interact with me and harass me. Fake accounts using my name were also made to attack my friends and ruin my name. At this time, my parents discovered my lies, forced me to shut down my Facebook in front of them, and I lied again reactivating my account a month later. There wasn't much going for me, and I didn't truly realize it until I was given the biggest shock of my life.

I met my best friend Dylan back in the third grade, and we have been best friends ever since. From countless sleepovers to playing video games and eating pizza, we would hang out as often as we could. On September 7, 2013, I received a phone call from Dylan, giving me the news that we were no longer allowed to be friends as said by his parents. A few weeks before, we were both in a chat on Facebook, and something happened where we both made a mistake. I won't tell for my own sake and his, and then this news came to me.

After he left, I swear that the switch on the bullying was turned up and tripled. Practically every day I would come home to find myself in group chats with those bullying me. When I would try to leave, they forced me to stay, and it depressed me to no end. By that December, I was near broken beyond repair.

Of course during this time I reached out to people for help. Friends would give me advice on what to do, and when severe occasions arose they would defend me against heartless posts. My state of being was broken. I was confused, angry all the time, not knowing where to turn to, or who to turn to anymore. I didn't want to come clean to my parents that I was still involved on Facebook, because I knew they would be upset with me for lying to them yet again about having an account. 

When these fake profiles attacked me, it wasn't just me. They also attacked my friends, and that's one of the reasons I never told my parents. I would tell them that my friends were being attacked, and that I was helping them out, but never revealing it was through Facebook.

Eventually, I came clean about everything. The bullying. Activating the account again. Everything. The things that were said about me and my friends will never need to be discussed or expressed, because that all is a thing of the past now. 

Then came the start of 2014, a year that started off in the gutter, but ended up high in the clouds. The second half of my post will talk about how 2014 was the best year of my life.

~TheDHCreator